If you are reading this page because you have lost a baby, whether recently or long ago, we are very sorry for your loss. All of us in Aberdeen Sands have suffered the tragic loss of a much-loved baby.

 

We know how it feels – the grief, the isolation, and the intense emotions.  We are just like you, parents whose precious babies have died.  Only other bereaved families can truly understand the feelings of loss and despair.  You may not want anything from us right away but we are here to help whenever you feel you need it.  That may be now or in a few weeks months or even years.

 

At SANDS there are people who understand what it’s like because many of us have been through this experience ourselves, and through this website, we hope to keep you connected with other members of the Aberdeen SANDS group and give you support and information.

About Us

Aberdeen SANDS is part of the Sands UK-wide network of local groups, offering emotional support and practical help if your baby has died during pregnancy, at birth or soon afterwards.  Aberdeen SANDS is managed by a committee of volunteers, all of whom are bereaved parents.

Get Support

Aberdeen SANDS supports anyone who has been affected by the death of a baby before, during or shortly after birth. We offer emotional support and information for parents, grandparents, siblings, children, families and friends, health professionals and others.

Support for Healthcare Professionals

One of SANDS core aims is to improve the quality of care offered during pregnancy and in the event of a baby dying.  We work in partnership with health professionals and others throughout Grampian to minimise the risks of stillbirth and to ensure the families of those babies who do die receive the best possible care

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I am currently raising funds for Sands and I have these vouchers for photo sessions available for anyone looking to get some family pictures or portraits done for Christmas 🎄 only looking for £5 each voucher to add to our end total we are also organising a 60s disco in March so anything raised off vouchers will go to our final total thanks 😊 ... See MoreSee Less

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Huge thank you to the Chaplains for another lovely Christmas service.

Remembering our Babies this Christmas
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Aberdeen Sands Xmas Service

Everyone who has been affected by the loss of a baby is welcome to come along to our Xmas Service this Sunday 10th December at Aberdeen Royal Infirmary Hospital Chapel

Quiet service (no children) at 1030
Family Service at 1115

If you can't manage along but would like your babies name written on a star and read out please let us know.

Refreshments will provided after each service and opportunity to purchase SANDS cards.
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Thank you to Gayle George,Lyndsay,and Gillian for taking part in the Aberdeen half Mararthon for Aberdeen SANDS and raising£3558.90.Well done girls. ... See MoreSee Less

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Thank you for another fab afternoon at the Aberdeen Sands Christmas party. You all do such a wonderful job and it's very much appreciated! Rebekah had a lovely time xx ... See MoreSee Less

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Date for the Diary
Scottish Nnetwork Day
Saturday 12th May 2018
Stirling Court Hotel, University of Stirling
A great chance to listen to interesting speakers and chat with bereaved parents from around Scotland.
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ABERDEEN SANDS Christmas Service
Sunday 10th December
at ARI Chapel
10.30 am Quiet Service
11.15am Family Service

Refreshemtns served after each service and SAMDS Christmas cards available
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One of our bereaved parents is looking for graveside candles does anyone if there any shops locally that sell them or if not online shops? Thanks in advance ... See MoreSee Less

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Hi - is it possible for someone from Admin to contact me? Nothing urgent at all - just a query regarding contact details/an idea that I have Thanks x ... See MoreSee Less

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Fiona Donald shared Sands, the stillbirth & neonatal death charity's post to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Bought your Christmas Cards yet? If not, help support our work and order them from Sands!

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Gabriel Artur 👼🏻🕯✨ Love You 😘 ... See MoreSee Less

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Ruby & Logan xx ... See MoreSee Less

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Remembering Katie Nicolson & all the angels up there 💗💙💗 ... See MoreSee Less

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Lloyd Murray ❤ ... See MoreSee Less

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Thank you to Laura Buchan and her friends who raised £2000.00 at the GLACK Attack well done girls and thank you ... See MoreSee Less

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Thank you to Lisa Scott for selling the Spree books to raise money for our group and to all of those purchased them We raised £155.00. ... See MoreSee Less

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The buildings are looking great ... See MoreSee Less

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Fiona Donald shared MISS's photo to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Great article in the Press and Journal today.

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SANDS Bereaved parents from around Scotland attended a Babyloss Candle Event at the Scottish Parliament. Asking MSP's to put Babyloss care improvement onto their agenda, so that all parents and families receive the same care that they need, no matter where they live. ... See MoreSee Less

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Refurbished and waiting on the final furniture 😍 thank you to Sandra Stephen and Donna Greig and SANDS making it real! 😍 ... See MoreSee Less

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Sandra Stephen shared Sands, the stillbirth & neonatal death charity's post to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Did you know you can get a Baby Loss Awareness UK #WaveofLight candle tin? Order yours today to get it in time for the 15th of October. Go to portal.uk-sands.org/public/shop/

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A huge thank you to Rebecca Simpson and her family who raised £460.65 for Aberdeen Sands in memory of the precious Ewan. The money was raised at a family fun day held at Rutheriston Community Centre. ... See MoreSee Less

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Thank you to Aberdeen Airport Staff Bonus Ball who chose Aberdeen SANDS as their charity for this year donating £650.00 ... See MoreSee Less

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Aberdeen Sands has received a very generous donation of £4665 from Apache Charities Committee. This money will be used to provide 4 bereavement training days in 2018. 2 days will be for Midwifes/Neonatal Nurses & HCSW and 2 days will be for Health Visitors. A massive thank you to Apache for this very generous donation. ... See MoreSee Less

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Fiona Donald shared Shetland Sands's event to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Shetland Sands AGM

November 18, 2017, 9:00am - November 18, 2017, 4:00am

Shetland Sands AGM will be held in Market House on Saturday 18th November 2017 from 9am-10am. If you would like to be involved in Sands please feel free to contact us. Everyone welcolme to this meeting.

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2 of us from Aberdeen Sands have successfully completed the Sands Befriender Training. If anyone is interested in becoming a befriender for Aberdeen Sands and wishes more information about the course please get in contact with us. ... See MoreSee Less

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The organisers of this event on Saturday 4th Nov to be held at Hallmark Hotel Dyce have kindly offered us a free stand so we can raise awareness of Sands and do some fundraising. Thank you to Lynn Hedley Craik for this opportunity. ... See MoreSee Less

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Aberdeen, Moray, & Banff & Buchan Sands jointly funded 3 midwifes to attend the Sands/Bliss conference in Birmingham yesterday.

The conference is the leading educational conference for healthcare professionals looking to provide the best care for parents whose baby has died.
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Aberdeen SANDS and Moray SANDS funded 2 midwifes 1 from Dr Grays in Elgin and 1 from Rubislaw to attend the SANDS/BLISS conference in London. Here is a photo of the 2 girls with their certificates of attendance. ... See MoreSee Less

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Pleased to say the total raised at our Sands quiz night was £1104 which will go towards our BFH fund.

Congratulations to the winning team 'The Dumbelles' the ladies from The Baird Family Hospital and Anchor Unit Project Group.
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Thank you to Sandra Stephen for organizing the Quiz Night last night in aid of the Baird Family Hospital Bereavement Suite. Was a fun night and thanks to all your helpers also. ... See MoreSee Less

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Another busy day for Aberdeen Sands as we were at Robert Gordon University doing Bereavement training for 50 1st year midwifery students. ... See MoreSee Less

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Today Aberdeen Sands funded a Sands Bereavement Training day at Pittrodrie. It was attended by 20 healthcare professionals from all over Grampian. A big thank you to Sonia for sharing her story.

I received this message tonight from one of the attendees

'Just wanted to say thank you for such an amazing day today...the SANDS study day was so valuable and such important to the professional role we do ....thanks again'

This shows how worthwhile organising these days are. If it wasnt for the people who donate money or fundraise for us we would not be able to fund these days so thank you!
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Hope this is allowed but i would just like to share our current donation amount for running Glack Attack in a months time!! Delighted to be over the £500 amount for such a fantastic cause ❤️ ... See MoreSee Less

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there are still has spree books for sale. They are £20 and you receive lots of discounts. A percentage of money comes direct to Aberdeen sands. If you would like one please pm Lisa Scott. Thanks in advance ... See MoreSee Less

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Hi could someone give me the dates to the next few meetings please? I'm trying to book holidays from work so I can get to a meeting x ... See MoreSee Less

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Just trying this again can you let me know if link works thanks 😊 www.facebook.com/events/852059174951078/?ti=cl ... See MoreSee Less

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Fiona Donald shared Shetland Sands's event to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Baby Loss Awareness Week Stall

October 14, 2017, 9:00am - October 14, 2017, 10:00am

Come along and have a look through our leaflets and books, speak to some of our befrienders and learn more about what Shetland Sands do. Get a candle ready for our Wave of Light on the 15th October at 7pm.

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Hi
I'd planned to come along this evening but I no longer can. Our first anniversary is next week and I'm really keen to hear ideas of how to mark the day. Our daughter was delivered stillborn at 24 weeks so we don't have any places that we took her that we could visit.

Our other children are 3&5 and will be part of whatever we do to commemorate.

Thank you.

Eilidh
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Could I get the pattern for the gowns and also are we able to donate knitted items to rubislaw ward? ( hats etc) ... See MoreSee Less

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Thank you to Laura Buchan and 5 others for taking part in the Glack Attack for Aberdeen SANDS . There fundraising page is www.justgiving.com/teams/mumsdoglack. ... See MoreSee Less

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If your free this Sunday at 1330 pop along to Ruthrieston Community Centre as Rebecca Simpson has organised a fun day in memory of her wee brother. Proceeds go to Aberdeen Sands and Cancer Research. Hope the day goes well and thank you for organising Rebecca.Fundrasier For Sand's In Memory Of My Little Brother And Cancer Research ... See MoreSee Less

Fundrasier For Sand's In Memory Of My Little Brother And Cancer Research

August 13, 2017, 1:30pm - August 13, 2017, 10:00am

All different stalls including Scentsy Hair bows and baby knitt Avon Glitter tattoos Cake stall Ladies handbags Facepainting Handmade Jewellery Happy hampers Papercraft Candyfloss & pick a mix Personalised frames Life casting Party lite Bouncy castle Mascots Games Beat the goalie Throw the wet sponge Tombola Raffles

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Aberdeen SANDS AGM Thursday 7th September at 7.30pm at the Sportsmans Club Queens Road.

Main Support Meeting starts at 8.30pm.

All welcome to both or either
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Thanks for adding me to the group. Please advise me where to get pattern 🌸🌹🌻🌷 ... See MoreSee Less

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A huge thank you to Laura Elder who has kindly made some beautiful baby gowns for Rubislaw. If anyone else would like to help make some gowns please get in touch with me. We can provide patterns and fabric. Please feel free to share this post if you know anyone who can sew. Thanks in advance ... See MoreSee Less

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A massive thanks goes to Michelle Annand and her friends Julie Main and Cheryl Main who have just donated £1500. The money was raised through raffles. The money will go towards our Bereavement Suite and is much appreciated. ... See MoreSee Less

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Hi everyone,
I have been looking into getting a Tree of tranquility from SiMBA for the families of Aberdeen.
These trees are valuable and sadly are at risk of vandalism so they only request is they are in a safe and if possible a locked facility, Duthie park has declined my request to place one in the winter gardens 🙁. How would you feel about having one situated within the new Baird family hospital garden? I know this is a long was off but the trees can take about a year to commission and some fund raising will be required.
Any feed back welcome.
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Hi all I am doing a stock check of how many collecting tins and buckets Aberdeen Sands has. If anyone has any can you let me know as we have several fundraising events coming up so we will need all our tins/buckets. Thanks in advance ... See MoreSee Less

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Tonight we met members of the St Machar Charities Committee who presented us with a cheque for £3000. The money will be going towards the Bereavement Suite. They organised various fundraising events throughout the year. These young people should be so proud of their fundraising achievement. ... See MoreSee Less

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Getting there. Despite road like these. And the rain!

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Shetland Sands Support Meeting

July 22, 2017, 10:30am - July 22, 2017, 6:30am

Shetland Sands support meeting in Islesburgh Community Centre. On Saturday 22nd July 2017, from 10.30am to 12.30pm We provide support to anyone who has gone through the loss of their baby or babies whether it was recently or a long time ago everyone is welcome. If you would like information regarding the meeting please contact us on 07341 945028. We aim to make out meetings informal and relaxed.

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Afternoon people it's that time of year again for .......Spree Books.... £20 each and so much goes towards Aberdeen Sands. You can contact me Thro FaceBk. Thank you 😊 ... See MoreSee Less

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We made today's Evening Express 👍 ... See MoreSee Less

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Raising awareness of Sands and the #15adaycampaign at Hazlehead Park today. Radio interview done for Radio Scotland for tomorrow and coverage in Evening Express tomorrow as well. Thanks to all who helped and came to our stand. ... See MoreSee Less

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Susan Masser shared Rebecca Simpson's event to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Fundrasier For Sand's In Memory Of My Little Brother And Cancer Research

August 13, 2017, 1:30pm - August 13, 2017, 10:00am

All different stalls including Scentsy Hair bows and baby knitt Avon Glitter tattoos Cake stall Ladies handbags Facepainting Handmade Jewellery Happy hampers Papercraft Candyfloss & pick a mix Personalised frames Life casting Party lite Bouncy castle Mascots Games Beat the goalie Throw the wet sponge Tombola Raffles

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Come and see us today in Hazlehead Park promoting awareness of Sands and #15babiesaday ... See MoreSee Less

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I've been busy working on the refurbishment of rooms 7 & 8 in Rubislaw with SANDS for the past few months and its almost done! So here are some before pictures 💕 ... See MoreSee Less

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With a donation we received from Emma Coulman we purchased 30 of these beautiful heart key rings to put in the memory pockets and boxes we provide to the maternity. A massive thank you to Emma for her donation. ... See MoreSee Less

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Fiona Donald shared Shetland Sands's post to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

Some photos from our fun day yesterday. We had a fantastic day. Many thanks to everyone who helped in any way and especially to everyone who came and hopefully enjoyed themselves. Thanks from Shetland Sands committee

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I don't ever say anything on here but I see alot and what an amazing job you guys do with the fundraising and memory boxes it's truly wonderful if u ever need help fundraising just let me know xx I wish when our daughter was still born in 2007 that these memory packs were available would of been lovely xxxxxx ... See MoreSee Less

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Sandra Stephen shared Sands, the stillbirth & neonatal death charity's photo to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

On Father's Day, we understand that this can be a difficult time for bereaved parents whose baby has died. With this in mind, our helpline is open on Sunday from 10am to 2pm. Call us free on 0808 164 3332 Email us at helpline@sands.org.uk www.sands.org.uk/support-you/how-we-offer-support/helpline

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We had the pleasure of accepting 2 cheques today one for £10,000 for UK Sands raised by Robbie Dawrant and one for Aberdeen Sands for £5000 from Nexen which will go towards the Bereavement Suite. Thank you to both Robbie and to Nexen for these very generous donations. ... See MoreSee Less

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Scottish Network Day 24th June in Dunfermline Fife.
A great day to hear interesting speakers and speak to other parents from around the Scottish Network.
Anyone interested please sned a pm or help@aberdeensands.com
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A massive well done to Emma Cadger and her friends for completing the Aberdeen Kiltwalk in aid of Sands. Total raised so far is over £2500 which will go towards the Bereavement Suite. ... See MoreSee Less

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Fun Day with tea, coffee and home bakes

June 17, 2017, 2:30pm - June 17, 2017, 10:30am

Shetland Sands is holding a funday with lots of games, raffles and many more fun things to do. More details will follow. Please come along for coffee, tea and some fun. Clickimin leisure centre on Saturday 17th June from 2.30pm to 4.30pm Top raffle prize has been donated by Northlink Ferries. Return travel with a cabin and car. There is a JustGiving page for anyone who can not make it but would like to donate. Link will be added to the page.

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Some photos from our Sands Beetle Drive last Friday. £1106 was raised for bereavement suite at Baird Family Hospital. Well done to the winners and to Fiona, Sonia and Susan for all their organising was a fun night. ... See MoreSee Less

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Thank you to all who attended bought or donated raffle prizes, sold square sheets or bought a square. We raised a grand total of £1106.50 for the new bereavement Annexe at the Baird Family Hospital. Thanks also to all who set up or cleared up. ... See MoreSee Less

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BEETLE DRIVE TONIGHT FOR BAIRD FAMILY HOSPITAL BEREAVEMENT SUITE ... See MoreSee Less

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Just received these lovely letters signed by all the children of nursery and P4 at Stoneywood Primary plus a donation of £363. The money was raised at a spring tea which the kids organised themselves. Made me quite emotional reading them! Massive thank you to all who contributed and especially the children. ... See MoreSee Less

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Fiona Donald shared Sands, the stillbirth & neonatal death charity's photo to the group: ABERDEEN SANDS. ... See MoreSee Less

15 babies die before, during or shortly after birth in the UK every single day. 15 babies too many. Help us spread awareness of this appalling fact this Sands Awareness Month. Use this #15babiesaday profile picture on your Facebook. bit.ly/2rX51j3

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